Yes, 2 puppies at the same time? This is the question I didn’t really ask myself when we had decided that we wanted dogs to join our family. Yes, I say family and not just get some dogs in the house.
The thought hadn’t even crossed my mind that there was a question about getting 1 or 2 puppies. It just seemed logical that they had company and 2 was the only number that came up.
The question I did ask (a lot of people) was whether getting two girl puppies and then later they grow into 2 girl dogs was a good idea. A few people had told me horror stories about fighting and being litter sisters made it worse. So, I called our local vet and had a chat with her. She was lovely about it and said that she personally didn’t see a problem with it but it would be a good idea to get them spayed at around 6 months old or thereabouts so that their hormones would’t get out of hand. The main answer was, she didn’t see a problem with it and she was one of those vets who called a spade a spade.
So, pfew! That was that then.
Our 2 puppies came home when they were ready and were full of cuteness and it was at this time that people told us we were crazy getting 2 puppies at the same time and it would be a lot of work.
The answer in short was that we weren’t crazy. Yes, we had double toilet training and double puppy school but if you were to think about it, if you were already training 1 puppy you may as well just train the other.
What is so lovely about having them together is that they keep each other company and play really well with each other. One is more dominant than the other and her sister’s nature is to allow that to happen. They are now 3 years old and all the dog classes were so worth the effort.
So, the answer for us at least is, yes…we were right to get 2 puppies at the same time but if you were thinking about it, I would :
- Give you local vet a call and ask them their thoughts. Tell them the breed you are interested in and whether you have children etc
- Put the effort into puppy classes – they really are worth every minute in the long run
Watching the recent dramatic football game between Brazil and Germany in the Worldcup 2014 (Germany won by 7 -1 in case you hadn’t seen it), led to the question that arose for the following game between Holland and Argentina which was: When Argentina and Holland started their match, were they thinking they were going to win or were they afraid of losing (bearing in mind the backlash the Brazillians had endured from their dramatic game) ?
Harsh. Yes. But it then got me thinking about how we approach various tasks or goals in life as a person, especially in the technological age we live in. I have helped a few people learn how to do something on their computer and the thought process that strikes me again and again is that they are worried that they will do something wrong instead of just giving it a go.
Now that may be because I haven’t fully understood their anxiety about learning about a piece of equipment that seems very powerful to them or given them the confidence to give it a bash and see what happens. Either way, the idea is that they are sure they will do something wrong is still there at the very start of the journey.
I mean, we could discuss various philisophical thought processes (which would be nice to do one day!) but it kind of more gets me wondering. Brazil never gave up during their match and thankfully scored a goal after trying so hard.
If we start out with the mentality of not wanting to do something wrong instead of approaching a goal with the mindset of succeeding, it must be pretty hard to focus on the doing right than the doing wrong. No? Was that a bit mumbly jumbly? What I am trying to say, is that if you set out with the fear of losing or doing something wrong, it inhibits the ability to focus on what you need to do in order to succeed.
When you start out with the mindset of aiming to succeed from the beginning means that yes, you may fail a couple of times along the way and hopefully learn a few new tricks whilst you are at it. It may also be that you succeed first time around and hey presto! That’s great! It’s an easier approach to look at what you need to do in order to get to your goal than worry about what you don’t need to do.
So…the question remains…Which Mindset are You? (or which mindset will you choose in the future?)
It’s been a sporting filled week for us and we’ve had very busy boys who just seem to have the energy to match all the things they have had on. It all started last Saturday when they went to their tennis lesson followed by playing loads of football at a school party. Followed by cricket on Sunday morning and another football filled afternoon at another party. This week they have had their various after school clubs but in between there have been some inter-school tournaments and yesterday topped it all off for our eldest son with an Olympics based all day games, followed by multiskills club after school and then a cricket match from 6-8:30pm and he was moaning in between all of this that he wanted to play badmington! I have decided that we are doing nothing much this weekend (apart from tennis and cricket …I don’t think I would have happy boys if they couldn’t go) . I can’t wait for the school holidays for us all to catch up on some chilling and just being. Mind you, with our busy boys that is sometimes hard but their little bodies and minds need to have the time and space to do that. What I do love, is that they recognise it and know that there is at least one day in the holidays where we have a pyjama / duvet day and they watch at least 2 films (sometimes 3!) in one day. They have, in previous holidays, asked for a pj day and…I don’t mind one bit!!
Yes, I see the frown on your face ( you stopped reading for a second and wondered whether you had a frown didn’t you?)
We like to pretend we know everything and we can’t have our children thinking that there are things we don’t know because, well, they just might use that snippet of knowledgelessness to gain an advantage over us parents. (I’ll ask Oxford to add it to their list of new words in their next edition) .
A friend of ours’ child, recently enlightened me with a story I hadn’t heard before. It was about an American Indian folklore of sorts where the story is about the 2 wolves inside you. One is a bad wolf (think of the usual suspects that come to mind like greed, jealousy etc) and the other a good wolf (kindness, love etc). It’s a great tale and the moral of the story is about feeding the good wolf rather than the bad one.
The other bit of enlightment that I also watched was the children at our school singing a beautiful song called ‘As One’ which is about listening to each other, getting on and basically learning from each other.
There have been a few others that have made me stop and think. These two examples are generally aimed at children and in so many ways should be aimed at their parents or the grown ups around them. I so often see children that are spoken at rather than with. My heart swells at times when I hear the message the children have to give. I just wish, grown ups would open their ears and listen to them!
When the boys were smaller, I used to tell them that ‘Mums know everything’ and they would nod and agree. As time went by, our youngest son started to test this theory out. Could I see what he was doing under the table or he would ask a question that I had no idea the answer was and then very proudly point out ‘ See! Mom’s don’t know everything!’
Now, I give the answer ‘I don’t know’ and the boys ask ‘Why don’t you know?’ My answer is because grown ups don’t know everything and that grown ups don’t always do the right thing either.
Clever clogs then piped up ‘Yes, because they are also learning to be grown ups just like we are learning to be children’.
I don’t need to say anymore now do I?